I have an advantage that I shamelessly exploit. I do not look my chronological age; I do not act my age. Actually, according to Real Age I am more than ten years younger than what the calendar says. Friends and acquaintances who are significantly younger than I am frequently tell me that they can't do something because they are too old. Meanwhile, I not only am doing what they are too old to do, I am also doing more than they did even when they were younger.
However, I came to actual (as opposed to imaginary) spanking less than five years ago. The one thing that I've found is that my skin does not hold up to a spanking as well as it might have when I was a lot younger. I bruise more easily. I may even take longer to heal, though I really don't have an equivalent to compare.
I recently had an interesting discussion with a vanilla girlfriend who is about twenty-five years younger. She was worried that her interest in sex would disappear as she aged. I was able to reassure her that in my case there have been some changes in the parts of my sexuality that are interesting, but that, if anything, the lack of children around all the time has significantly improved things for me. And that I don't expect that to change anytime before I decide to finally depart this life.
Sometime last year, Swan of The Heron Clan wrote about the difficulty she was having with changes in her skin. Thinking about that and about the recent additions to my sexual repertoire such as spanking: How do we continue to have our needs met when our bodies can't take it at the levels they could when we were younger? Do I push now, to experience as much as I possibly can? Do I take things more slowly? How do I balance my desires with my safety?
In all honesty I have to admit that when I was recently around others who were younger but lots more experienced than I am with spanking and related activities, I didn't really want to let on just how inexperienced I really was. I guess some things never change.
The one answer I do know is that as long as I'm breathing I'm not too old.
Friday, August 17, 2007
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There are real dimensions to aging that can affect playing Judo. Older Judo players simply ban certain choke holds on their neck near their carotid arteries. The reason for this is that squeezing the neck can break off chunks of plaque and thereby cause the artery to shut off.
What the spanking scene needs is some objective research on whether there are analogous restrictions on various forms of pressure that might be exerted on the bottom. The discussion of implements and their "feel" might be further informed by rating them as to the danger of generating bruises. I think Lexan may be one of the safer substances, especially when formed into a nice flexible, lightweight paddle. Stingy without causing deep bruising. I know this only secondhand, as it were.
As much as admitting to aging sucks, perhaps admitting it and thereby avoiding strokes and pulmonary/cardiac embolisms may be preferable.
If you think spankos are tempted by age-related denial, visit any meeting of athletic "clubs" such as ski clubs, soccer clubs, rugby clubs, or running clubs. All sorts of 40s types pretending they are still in their 20s.
I too am very new to spanking and I have encountered similar problems. Earlier this year I purchased a wooden paddle specifically designed for self=spanking. When I used the new paddle, it was the best spanking I had ever had. However, the next day my entire backside looked as if it had been painted with black and purple paint and the bruising did not go away completely for ten days.
It was a great spanking but I am unwilling to inflict that kind of trauma on my butt again.
Enjoyed your posting,this is my first visit to your blog and I will drop by again soon,Best wishes from Dublin Ireland,
Paolo
I honestly don't know, and haven't discovered all the answers to these questions. I know that we do not play at the same levels we used to. I know that my skin breaks with far less impact / trauma than it used to. Blood is almost always part of our play anymore, whether we "intend" it or not. It is simply the reality.
Lighter, stingier implements are generally less damaging, although things that land "sharply" or with much of an edge can cause a break in the skin. So, for example, a cane might fall into the "light" and "stingy" range, but can cause breaking because of the narrowness of its impact zone...
In the final analysis, we generally have made our peace with the reality of more significant skin damage during a "session," and more lengthy healing between sessions. I tend to use "natural yam" cream preparations, that can be purchased at health food stores, to balance the moisture and elasticity in my skin and help heal any wounds. We steer clear (mostly) of very heavy paddles and my beloved leather floggers. We are learning to adjust... Age does not defeat us.
swan
I've never heard of bruising from spanking causing health problems. One of the reasons spanking is such a common method of punishment around the globe is that it is, in fact, remarkably safe.
A pulmonary embolism occurs when a clot within a blood vessel breaks free and travels through the circulation to the lungs. This can be fatal.
Bruising is the result of the collection of blood *outside* broken blood vessels. So bruising doesn't, and can't, result in dangerous blood clots.
Everyone bruises either too much or too little. By this I mean that people who hate bruising will bruise more than they like when they first start playing with hard spankings. Over time, however, they will bruise much less.
In contrast, some people love bruises as a souvenir of a welcome punishment. These folks are happy at first, but inevitably reality strikes as they realize that they no longer bruise the way they used to.
SelfSpankner needs to make his or her own decisions, of course, but I'm betting that his or her butt bruises less the second time than the first and that there are no lasting ill effects in any case.
I am more concerned about skin damage than bruising. Hard paddling (or hard hitting with anything) that leads to oozing or bleeding can lead to permanent weakening of an area of skin. This isn't dangerous but it limits how much spanking you can take in future.
Thanks for the fun blog!
Thanks for leaving your comments.
Doc Tsai: I thank you for your expertise in this area, with both your greater experience than mine as well as your professional knowledge, your comments are most helpful.
brst: I love your analogy to other kinds of clubs!
SelfSpanker: I've had a spanking like yours that left bruising for about ten days, though someone else did administer it. The good (and bad) news is, that it did fade.
Paolo Macca: Delighted to have you visit. I look forward to hearing more from you.
Swan: I always appreciate your insights. Good luck with the new school year.
Five years ago I'd never heard of spanking. Now we have changed our vanilla marriage for so many years, into a DD relationship. We hope to continue spanking till our last breath.
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