Recently I got to thinking (that’s always dangerous) about pain. I knew that what I’ve felt in the past, a few hours after a session, has not been at all unpleasant. So I began to wonder if those sensations should really be considered as pain. When I got on-line and looked up pain, this is what I found:
Definitions of Pain:
1. physical suffering or distress, as due to injury, illness, etc.
2. a distressing sensation in a particular part of the body: a back pain.
3. mental or emotional suffering or torment: I am sorry my news causes you such pain.
Dictionary.com
1. An unpleasant sensation occurring in varying degrees of severity as a consequence of injury, disease, or emotional disorder.
2. Suffering or distress.
1. physical suffering or distress, as due to injury, illness, etc.
2. a distressing sensation in a particular part of the body: a back pain.
3. mental or emotional suffering or torment: I am sorry my news causes you such pain.
Dictionary.com
1. An unpleasant sensation occurring in varying degrees of severity as a consequence of injury, disease, or emotional disorder.
2. Suffering or distress.
American Heritage Dictionary
Based on the above definitions, I really have not experienced any pain beginning a couple of hours after I’ve “played”. What I experienced was sensations that were not unpleasant and did not cause significant suffering or distress. The sensations I experienced lead to (possibly euphoric) recall that I smiled about and enjoyed.
Now the actual sessions can be a different story. When it moves from a hand spanking, even a very hard one, to a hairbrush or a paddle or a cane, what I experienced was significant pain. Up to that point, it hurts, but by the above definitions even that wasn’t truly pain. It did hurt, but was not what I would call “suffering” because on at least one level, maybe more, I really was enjoying it.
Afterwards, it isn’t usually long before the pain begins to somehow transmute for me. It would occasionally catch me off guard and hurt when I didn’t expect it (like sitting down in heavily embroidered panties) but even that was a good, turn-on kind of hurt.
Afterwards, it isn’t usually long before the pain begins to somehow transmute for me. It would occasionally catch me off guard and hurt when I didn’t expect it (like sitting down in heavily embroidered panties) but even that was a good, turn-on kind of hurt.
Now I realize that this is really nit-picky, but I find that in order to communicate clearly what is really occurring, I need to be very specific. If I were not a masochist, I probably would consider that what I’ve experienced to be significantly painful. It probably disappoints the sadistic side of any sadist reading that I’m not in pain. But you have to take the good with the bad. You’d get a few minutes to give me a lot of pain that lasts for just a couple of hours and then makes me feel good. I endure a lot of pain for a short time to enjoy the more pleasant after effects for days. And there are times when the enjoyment can be even more immediate for me. Somehow, I think looking at the total picture, I have the better deal.
3 comments:
A really thoughtful essay. How about this as a definition: pain is a sensation that when considered in itself, we would like it to go away?
What is it to consider pain "in itself?" It would be to think of pain as having no context, no purpose, no signal effects, etc. The pain resulting from a spank or a whole spanking has multiple layers or dimensions to it. Imagine subtracting all those dimensions. Then you are left with just the pain.
Great blog, so very thoughtful and reflective. Nice work.
I appreciate your comment, brst. I certainly agree with the multiple layers and dimensions, even in Real Life, it applies. There is a real difference in the perception of pain following childbirth and nasty, not your fault auto accident. Hmmm. More food for thought.
Childbirth can be challenging but the wonderful thing lately is the Lamaze and other systems for dealing with the pain. They don't totally work, as anyone who has delivered a full-term baby reports. But, the spirit is good and they help a person feel a bit more in control.
AND, at the end there is a brand "spanking new" (they never really did it, actually) baby!
With the auto accident there is nothing good "down the road." Paperwork, higher insurance rates, lawsuits, etc. So, again multiple layers and dimensions.
In the case of spanking, well there might be guilt-reduction, wildly passionate love-making, a sore bottom as a reminder, all sorts of good things coming. But, all three do have in common an underlying pain. The problem is how to describe that commonality. I proposed before "a sensation that in itself we would like to go away." The "in itself" is the hard part. Another way to say it might be to say the common element is the hurting. Does that capture it better?
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