I haven’t posted much recently. I’ve just started a new job; that can be distracting to say the least. One of the experiences of starting that position is lots of orientation. There was one session that was held in a Wellness Center that had a lot of very nice amenities; the one that surprised me most was a small labyrinth in the courtyard. For those unfamiliar, labyrinths are used for walking meditation. They go back to ancient times, think of the Minotaur, and are found in many different cultures. Since I was looking for something refreshing during my lunch hour, I decided to walk it. Several interesting observations occurred as I did.
Like life, this labyrinth curved through both light and dark areas. And while on your way to the center you never are on the same path twice, you do pass next to areas you’ve passed before. When you pass those areas however, the rocks and plantings are seen from a different angle, once again changing your experience of them. The trip out “back to the world” utilizes the same pathways as the way in, but once again, everything is changed by the difference in how you view the path and the divisions between sections as well as the passage of time. How does this relate to this thing that we do? I found some interesting ideas.
No spanking will ever be the same as any other. It doesn’t matter that you try to do the same thing as the last time, that you are playing the same role with the same partner. Even the last experience will influence how you perceive this one.
There are times when the spankings will be dark and edgier. There will be times when they can be light and frothy. There are times when the light shed by the spanking adds a sharpness and clarity to the passage on which we find ourselves. There will be times when the dark spanking we are experiencing will allow us to better see the area of our life where the light-giving spankings may have occurred and what it did for us. Sometimes we can see to a different section of the walkway that was dark when we were there but because the clouds have shifted, it has now become light.
On another level, each spanking can be likened to walking the labyrinth. There is a way in to the center, it may be a role play; it may be corner time. There is always something that leads up to the spanking. As we walk that path either as a top or a bottom, there are changes that occur in our thinking and our physical reactions. What bottom hasn’t at some time, felt that nervousness, the clenching in the gut of anticipation? The hyperawareness of one’s sit-spot? Sometimes even the slickness of desire that builds at the same time? (Tops, feel free to comment here, I don’t know what you feel in the way of anticipatory preparation.) At the center is the spanking itself, just as in the labyrinth there was an open space and a large rock where I would have been able to sit. (Or someone could have been seated and pulled me across his lap!) And following the spanking is the return to the “real world”, the aftercare.
Whatever the spanking experience, just like walking a labyrinth, one does not return to the world unchanged.
Monday, October 15, 2007
Saturday, October 13, 2007
Welcome to New Lurkers
A special welcome and thank you to those of you who choose to De-Lurk on Love Our Lurkers Day! I am delighted to know you and encourage you to come back and comment any time you are able.
Erik: I look forward to hearing from you again.
Serpent's Embrace: Let me know if you catch me in any historical errors.
Purple Angel: Come often and stay as long as you want.
MaggieDear: I'm working on a new one now!
AngelBrat: Glad to have you around. I'm finding a bunch of new blogs through Bonnie, too.
Hermione: Obviously we share a love for Harry Potter and friends.
Theresa: I'm glad you like it here.
Naughtybuttcute: I think a lot of us owe Bonnie a big thank you for coming up with this idea.
For those of you who are new to me, I'm going to check out your blogs, too!
If you haven't posted yet, are still lurking around in the shadows, please come out to play with us. We don't bite. I am frequently late myself, so I have no problem with your responding late to the de-lurk love-in!
Thursday, October 11, 2007
Love Our Lurkers Day II
I missed the first ever Love Our Lurkers Day last year because I wasn't reading the right blogs. This year I am ever so much wiser, I have not only read the right blogs, I am now writing one.
So please accept my kind invitation to come out of the woodwork and let me know you're hanging around. I have a couple of reasons why I think it's a good idea.
The first is that I have no idea who or how many people actually read what I write. Every time I try to put in a counter, something goes wrong. But even if I did have one, it wouldn't tell me anything about who you are and what your interests are. I'd really like to get to know you. [Cue music: Getting to Know You]
The second reason is that de-lurking myself eventually led to my making so many comments that I realized that I really did have something to say. So thus was born this blog. Which leads back to the first reason, I really do want to get to know some more of the interesting people who inhabit blogland.
So to all my faithful lurkers, I love you and look forward to hearing from you soon. Late entries will always be welcomed.
Monday, September 24, 2007
Spanking Fever
This was written a while back as a response to some correspondence I had with Doc Tsai about “spanking fever”. As you can tell, I have a medical background and have read way too many articles on various types of medical conditions.
The Etiology and Treatment of Spanking Fever
Spanking Fever (SF) has been variously defined as just a simple increase in the actual amount of spanking administered in a domestic disciplinary setting (Lucy79) or by an obsession with spanking that may or may not extend over a moderate to extended period of time (Tsai, 2006)
At this time, the etiology of (SF) is not totally clear. What does seem clear is that the there obviously is an underlying strong interest in spanking, expressed by giving (top), receiving (bottom) or both (switch). This particular interest may be hardwired (S-HW) or an acquired interest (S-AI). S-HW interest is characterized by an interest in spanking from an early age. Symptomology for S-HW could include not being able to ignore a parent spanking a child (however briefly) in a store, spanking fantasies starting as young as age 3 or 4, having a visceral reaction to spanking scenes on television or in movies. These examples represent only the tip of a vast number of possibilities. S-AI usually makes its appearance at a somewhat older age, frequently during the teen years with spanking play being a part of the generalized sexual play that occurs during that stage of development. It also may occur when a partner expresses interest in being spanked as a part of a Domestic Discipline (DD) arrangement or as a form of erotic play. Again, these are mentioned for illustrative purposes only. Many and varied permutations of both S-HW and S-AI exist.
SF is can occur at any time in those predisposed for the condition. Once the interest in spanking has become an established part of the individual’s awareness, a variety of circumstances may contribute to the flare up of SF:
new vista of spanking possibilities opens up
a potential new partner
a spanking scene in a movie
an overheard laughing threat that “If you don’t behave, I’ll give you a spanking”
a period of inadequate or non-existent manual percussive treatment of the perigluteal area (See Tsai, 2001)
Other possibilities will occur to the thoughtful practitioner.
Many patients do not seek treatment at all, instead spending an inordinate amount of time on the internet searching out stories, blogs, real life accounts, and other forms of information. This may at times temporarily remove some symptoms, but frequently will inflame and intensify and otherwise exacerbate the symptoms instead. It never results in a permanent cure.
Because of inadequate research funding, there is a dearth of controlled studies regarding the efficacy of any single treatment modality. Instead, treatment normally is focused on whatever manifestation is causing the patient the most distress (or lack thereof).
Common treatments tried have included: hand spanking, paddling with a variety of types of paddles, strapping, tawsing, and caning being among the most common. Corner time has been tried but does not appear to be efficacious in the absence of one of the previously mentioned modalities. There are anecdotally reported cases that sometimes these treatments may actually exacerbate the SF, at best they seem to relieve the symptoms on a temporary basis.
At this time there is no cure for SF and relapses are extremely common. In fact, extremes are the norm with this condition. Exacerbations of SF can occur at any age throughout the life-span, even in the elderly (esp. the SSCs-Sexy Senior Citizens).
Some related co-morbidities include Bondage Block (BB), Domination Delirium (DomD) and Fetish Frenzy (FF). Gay Giddiness (GG) may also be related.
The Etiology and Treatment of Spanking Fever
Spanking Fever (SF) has been variously defined as just a simple increase in the actual amount of spanking administered in a domestic disciplinary setting (Lucy79) or by an obsession with spanking that may or may not extend over a moderate to extended period of time (Tsai, 2006)
At this time, the etiology of (SF) is not totally clear. What does seem clear is that the there obviously is an underlying strong interest in spanking, expressed by giving (top), receiving (bottom) or both (switch). This particular interest may be hardwired (S-HW) or an acquired interest (S-AI). S-HW interest is characterized by an interest in spanking from an early age. Symptomology for S-HW could include not being able to ignore a parent spanking a child (however briefly) in a store, spanking fantasies starting as young as age 3 or 4, having a visceral reaction to spanking scenes on television or in movies. These examples represent only the tip of a vast number of possibilities. S-AI usually makes its appearance at a somewhat older age, frequently during the teen years with spanking play being a part of the generalized sexual play that occurs during that stage of development. It also may occur when a partner expresses interest in being spanked as a part of a Domestic Discipline (DD) arrangement or as a form of erotic play. Again, these are mentioned for illustrative purposes only. Many and varied permutations of both S-HW and S-AI exist.
SF is can occur at any time in those predisposed for the condition. Once the interest in spanking has become an established part of the individual’s awareness, a variety of circumstances may contribute to the flare up of SF:
new vista of spanking possibilities opens up
a potential new partner
a spanking scene in a movie
an overheard laughing threat that “If you don’t behave, I’ll give you a spanking”
a period of inadequate or non-existent manual percussive treatment of the perigluteal area (See Tsai, 2001)
Other possibilities will occur to the thoughtful practitioner.
Many patients do not seek treatment at all, instead spending an inordinate amount of time on the internet searching out stories, blogs, real life accounts, and other forms of information. This may at times temporarily remove some symptoms, but frequently will inflame and intensify and otherwise exacerbate the symptoms instead. It never results in a permanent cure.
Because of inadequate research funding, there is a dearth of controlled studies regarding the efficacy of any single treatment modality. Instead, treatment normally is focused on whatever manifestation is causing the patient the most distress (or lack thereof).
Common treatments tried have included: hand spanking, paddling with a variety of types of paddles, strapping, tawsing, and caning being among the most common. Corner time has been tried but does not appear to be efficacious in the absence of one of the previously mentioned modalities. There are anecdotally reported cases that sometimes these treatments may actually exacerbate the SF, at best they seem to relieve the symptoms on a temporary basis.
At this time there is no cure for SF and relapses are extremely common. In fact, extremes are the norm with this condition. Exacerbations of SF can occur at any age throughout the life-span, even in the elderly (esp. the SSCs-Sexy Senior Citizens).
Some related co-morbidities include Bondage Block (BB), Domination Delirium (DomD) and Fetish Frenzy (FF). Gay Giddiness (GG) may also be related.
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
A Bit More on Magic Wands
No, this isn't the rest of what I promised about Magic Wands. I’ve been caught up the last week or so in the ongoing drama of a friend and haven’t had time to write much beyond my name. So here at least is something to keep you coming back until I have time to write more extensively:
I’ve had some private responses to my last post (you know who you are!) and it did remind me that somewhere, once upon a time, I read a blog by a couple who called themselves TwiddlyBits and DanglyBits. In spite of all the wonderful feelings I have for "Magic Wands" there is no way I personally would trade my TwiddlyBits for DanglyBits. As is probably pretty obvious, all Freudian pontificating to the contrary, I have never suffered from "penis envy." Viva TwiddlyBits for me and DanglyBits for them. It's so much more fun this way!
I’ve had some private responses to my last post (you know who you are!) and it did remind me that somewhere, once upon a time, I read a blog by a couple who called themselves TwiddlyBits and DanglyBits. In spite of all the wonderful feelings I have for "Magic Wands" there is no way I personally would trade my TwiddlyBits for DanglyBits. As is probably pretty obvious, all Freudian pontificating to the contrary, I have never suffered from "penis envy." Viva TwiddlyBits for me and DanglyBits for them. It's so much more fun this way!
Tuesday, September 4, 2007
Magic Wands
A comment recently added by PainHealer to one of my Harry Potter posts got me thinking about magic wands. So first of all, I got on-line and looked up magic wands and then followed all kinds of links all over the place.
Wands-did you know that a wand was a part of a decimal system of measurement as an ancient British length unit? That may be the origin of the wand that survives in folklore.
In Tarot there is a suite of wand (another name for batons). Interestingly enough it is associated with the element of fire.
In Wicca and Ceremonial magic, wands are used for channeling energy and are considered to be more gentle than an athame that is used to command; instead it is used to invite or encourage. In Wicca, too, it usually represents the element of fire.
There is a huge amount of information on the different woods and their properties for magic.
All of that said (and lots of other information internalized), my first response was not the one that PainHealer mentions. As a female, it's always the magic wand that the male carries with him at all times that pops up (so to speak) in my mind. So of course, I had to do some reading that was related there, too. Did you know that according to Jacques Lacan men are positioned as men insofar as they are seen to have the phallus? Women, not "having" the phallus are seen to "be" the phallus. (That should take care of all of those idiots that think we “suffer from penis envy!”)
Why is it magic? First of all, it seems to magically arise, often when least expected. It adores the worship it receives, providing that worship is one of the most wonderfully exciting way to spend a significant amount of time. Secondly, once it has arisen, it is able to provide incredibly fabulous sensations in a variety of locations in my body. It can excite, satisfy, punish, fill, taunt, tease, stimulate, inflame, sooth, motivate, inspire, madden, dazzle, amaze and astonish. It is also able to provide hours of entertainment even in its absence. The recalling of previous experiences with this magic rod and the ongoing fantasies that play out in one's mind prolong the pleasure. There you are a brief and limited paean to my favorite magic wand.
Comments on other types of magic wands will follow at a later date, I promise. I've learned way too much not to share it!
Wands-did you know that a wand was a part of a decimal system of measurement as an ancient British length unit? That may be the origin of the wand that survives in folklore.
In Tarot there is a suite of wand (another name for batons). Interestingly enough it is associated with the element of fire.
In Wicca and Ceremonial magic, wands are used for channeling energy and are considered to be more gentle than an athame that is used to command; instead it is used to invite or encourage. In Wicca, too, it usually represents the element of fire.
There is a huge amount of information on the different woods and their properties for magic.
All of that said (and lots of other information internalized), my first response was not the one that PainHealer mentions. As a female, it's always the magic wand that the male carries with him at all times that pops up (so to speak) in my mind. So of course, I had to do some reading that was related there, too. Did you know that according to Jacques Lacan men are positioned as men insofar as they are seen to have the phallus? Women, not "having" the phallus are seen to "be" the phallus. (That should take care of all of those idiots that think we “suffer from penis envy!”)
Why is it magic? First of all, it seems to magically arise, often when least expected. It adores the worship it receives, providing that worship is one of the most wonderfully exciting way to spend a significant amount of time. Secondly, once it has arisen, it is able to provide incredibly fabulous sensations in a variety of locations in my body. It can excite, satisfy, punish, fill, taunt, tease, stimulate, inflame, sooth, motivate, inspire, madden, dazzle, amaze and astonish. It is also able to provide hours of entertainment even in its absence. The recalling of previous experiences with this magic rod and the ongoing fantasies that play out in one's mind prolong the pleasure. There you are a brief and limited paean to my favorite magic wand.
Comments on other types of magic wands will follow at a later date, I promise. I've learned way too much not to share it!
Miscellaneous Information
AVATAR: My avatar is based on the fact that I can trace my lineage back in my Scottish Clan to the 11th century. I am a past national director of my clan's organization in the United States. I am very proud of my Scottish heritage.
COMMENT VERIFICATION: I started out using comment verification because lots of the blogs I read seem to have it. I have become frustrated with the way it works in Blogger. It seems you have to verify twice if you decide to preview your comment. So I have removed it from this site until I start having difficulties with spam or sporge or whatever you want to call it. However, after the 29,633 word rant I just recieved I'm beginning to be tempted, but I'm not really sure that would have stopped him.
COMMENT VERIFICATION: I started out using comment verification because lots of the blogs I read seem to have it. I have become frustrated with the way it works in Blogger. It seems you have to verify twice if you decide to preview your comment. So I have removed it from this site until I start having difficulties with spam or sporge or whatever you want to call it. However, after the 29,633 word rant I just recieved I'm beginning to be tempted, but I'm not really sure that would have stopped him.
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